The Warrior-Saint Strategy: How to Be Dangerous and Kind

We are taught two opposing lies about how to exist in the world. Lie number one is "Be Nice." The result...

Why Your Diet Failed (Again): The Myth of Willpower

You were good all day. You ate the salad for lunch. You drank the water. You resisted the bagels in the...

Having a Spine in a World of Jellyfish

Today, your social media feed is likely full of Martin Luther King Jr. quotes posted by people who would have hated...

The Negativity Default: Why Gratitude Is a Survival Skill

You can have a nearly perfect day. The traffic was light. The quarterly meeting went well. You had a great sandwich...

Why Your House is Messy and Your Life is Chaos

You walk into your house and you feel tired immediately. The front door handle jiggles because the screw is loose.

You Aren’t Stupid, You’re Just Rusty: How to Wake Up Your Brain

It happens to all of us. You walk into a room to get something, and by the time you cross the...

Stop Fighting the Current

I used to believe that if I wasn't exhausted, I wasn't trying hard enough. I treated life like a wall I...

New Ascensions: Why You Should Treat January Like Base Camp

I usually wake up on January 1st with a condition climbers call Summit Fever. I want to be at the peak...

The Passion Paradox: Why Searching for It Is Making You Miserable

I spent years waiting for a lightning bolt. I looked at successful people like musicians, entrepreneurs, and writers and assumed they...

Christmas and the End of the Self-Rescue Mission

I live most of my life fighting a war against entropy. Order turns to chaos. Energy turns to exhaustion. Motivation turns...